Fuck Coming Out. Why Don’t Y’all Come the Fuck In?
Queerness and Connectio, Healing and Resistance, Culture and Mental Health, Boundaries and Self-Definition, Community and Connection, Identity and Self-Acceptance, Tanisha Christie LCSW Tanisha Christie Queerness and Connectio, Healing and Resistance, Culture and Mental Health, Boundaries and Self-Definition, Community and Connection, Identity and Self-Acceptance, Tanisha Christie LCSW Tanisha Christie

Fuck Coming Out. Why Don’t Y’all Come the Fuck In?

Fuck coming out. We’re staying the fuck inside. Our sexuality isn’t a TED Talk. Our gender isn’t your HR diversity exercise where someone nods gravely and says, “Thank you for sharing.” (Translation: please don’t sue us.) Straight people roll through life unexamined, while we’re expected to hold press conferences at family holidays. Our cousins bring home a Tinder date and it’s “Pass the gravy.” We bring our partners and it’s suddenly a symposium: “So how do you two… uh… live?

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Redefining Success During the Holiday Season: Setting Boundaries with Family Expectations
Holiday Wellness and Mental Health, Family Dynamics and Relationships, Boundary Setting, Personal Development and Growth, Conflict Resolution Strategies, Tanisha Christie LCSW Tanisha Christie Holiday Wellness and Mental Health, Family Dynamics and Relationships, Boundary Setting, Personal Development and Growth, Conflict Resolution Strategies, Tanisha Christie LCSW Tanisha Christie

Redefining Success During the Holiday Season: Setting Boundaries with Family Expectations

The holiday season is often a time for you to connect with family and celebrate those familial connections with joy. However, for many of us, the holiday season can be a really stressful period, especially when it comes to the topic of family and setting healthy boundaries. In some households, setting boundaries may be really difficult. This season can challenge even the most centered among us as we navigate various struggles from your relatives’ expectations about how you “should” spend the holidays, subtle (or not so subtle) pressure to achieve certain milestones, or simply just old tensions resurfacing. This year, let’s redefine what success looks like during the holidays. It should not be based on meeting others' expectations but on staying true to ourselves.

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Is It Still Important to Come Out for National Coming Out Day and Trans Remembrance Day?
LGBTQIA+ Identities and Experiences, Mental Health and Well-being, Intersectionality, Activism and Social Justice, Societal Expectations and Norms, Tanisha Christie LCSW Tanisha Christie LGBTQIA+ Identities and Experiences, Mental Health and Well-being, Intersectionality, Activism and Social Justice, Societal Expectations and Norms, Tanisha Christie LCSW Tanisha Christie

Is It Still Important to Come Out for National Coming Out Day and Trans Remembrance Day?

I have had the privilege to witness many clients reflect on their personal journeys and support the navigation of their identities within a complex social context. Some have even asked if it is still important to come out.  And “What if we live in a world where it’s okay to just be, where labels don’t need declarations and existence itself can be revolutionary?”

As a therapist, I can’t answer this but work with people to make their own determinations on what they might feel or believe given who they are, where they live, and what they understand about the world.

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