Men should talk about stuff too: Breaking the stigma

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It’s surprising to believe that men and mental health is still a topic shrouded in stigma and misconceptions.  Societal expectations and traditional masculine norms often discourage men from openly discussing their feelings and mental health challenges which is leading to dire consequences. The statistics regarding men's mental health paint a troubling picture:

According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, men die by suicide at a rate 3.56 times higher than women. In the United States, suicide is the seventh leading cause of death among males, with men accounting for 79% of all suicides.

The World Health Organization (WHO) reports that globally, suicide rates are significantly higher among men, with some countries showing rates more than three times higher for men compared to women.

The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) estimates that over six million men in the U.S. experience depression each year. Despite this high number, men are less likely to seek help for their mental health issues compared to women.

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These statistics are pretty bleak and we know that the stigma is deeply rooted in oppressive societal and cultural norms that limit people from having access to wellness for themselves. From a young age, boys are often taught to suppress their emotions, be tough, and avoid showing vulnerability. Phrases like "man up", “take it like a man” and even the slightest expression of emotion, “what are you a little bitch”; a derogatory feminization for feelings. Keep cis and trans men/boys locked into cultural conditioning that can have severe repercussions leading to issues such as depression, anxiety, substance use, destructive/self-sabatoging behavior and even suicidal tendencies. And what’s worse, many believe that society believes that if they go and get help it’s a sign of weakness. 

I appreciated Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson, interview in Men’s Health magazine  where he opened up about his battle with depression. Johnson talked about struggling with depression multiple times in his life, including a period after his football career ended abruptly. He spoke about the immense pressure he felt to maintain a tough exterior and how this affected his mental health. This kind of shift in one’s life is ripe for mental and emotional struggle. The sense of loss, shame and disappointment. These aspects of life that affect everyone. 

So where to begin?

Let’s collectively choose to talk openly. Just begin talking about it to the men folk in your life.

If we keep encouraging open conversations, we can create a culture where men feel empowered to discuss their mental health without fear of judgment. It’s time for us to  redefine what it means to be strong and resilient, recognizing that true strength lies in acknowledging our wellness. These beliefs are based on what these systems of culture want to tell us is a lie. Men, live and trust a new truth. Your wellness matters.

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We have several therapists who focus on men’s issues reach out. 

Written by Tanisha Christie, LCSW (she/her)

Tanisha Christie, LCSW (she/her) is the Founder and Practice Director who champions the liberation of individuals through the acknowledgement and affirmation of their stories. With a collaborative, holistic, and directive approach, Tanisha guides clients toward healing. Her extensive experience includes roles at Mount Sinai Hospital, the Ackerman Institute for the family and private practices, offering specialized expertise in polyamorous and couple relationships, executive coaching, and clinical supervision.